Saturday, April 25, 2015

36 Questions: SET 2

Here's the continuation to my answers to the famous 36 Questions:


13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

I want to know what would happen to me in 3 years time because I'm quite anxious about my future. I just have a lot of options now and I am not sure which one I should pursue to achieve my life goals.

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

I have a strong desire to travel the world for the rest of my life! The haven't done it because I still haven't found the opportunity to get that kind of work. Some years ago, I have been aspiring to become a diplomat or an international NGO worker, but things happened so those aspirations had to take a backseat.

My priority has always been to help my family so I have been stuck in the corporate world for 8 years now. If I can do anything now without thinking of the consequences, I'd quit my job and just travel. If I go that route, I would only be able to earn just enough to sustain myself and my expeditions.

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

I'd say that graduating college with a Cum Laude distinction is one of my greatest accomplishments because it opened up opportunities for me and I gain respect of people when they know about it.

16.What do you value most in a friendship?

Loyalty is one thing that's very important for me when it comes to friendships. I've lost friends because they were not there during the times that I needed them most.

17. What is your most treasured memory?

One of my most treasured memories is when I had my first love. Yes, it's cheesy but it's true. It took me more than two years to get close to moving on. It's been more than 3 years and I still think about it from time to time.

I never thought that I'd treat a person differently from how I usually treat people around me. I was just so enamored that everything about him was perfect for me despite all his quirks. I was more patient and more forgiving. I just wanted to be with him as often as possible. He was my top priority and I was ready to be his ally in anything. Too bad I only realized it when his desire for me has already waned.

18. What is your most terrible memory?

I have my share of bad experiences these past few years. But one of the most terrible memories I have is when I was not allowed to enter HK due to the error made by a Cambodian immigration officer on my passport. It was very traumatic and I definitely didn't deserve to be treated as if I were a criminal.

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Perhaps I will just be more vocal about appreciating the people around me. I will tell my family that I love them and I am grateful for everything that they have done for me.

20. What does friendship mean to you?

Friendship should be a lasting relationship founded on trust and loyalty. Friends should accept me for who I am and be there for me in my successes and during trying times.

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

I am not romantically involved at the moment so the kind of love I am relying on is from my family. Though they may not be expressive and there are several times when we they show otherwise, their love is what keeps me going.

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

Not applicable.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

As I've mentioned, my family is not expressive in conveying love and gratitude toward me. But it's not a big deal. I would still think that my childhood is relatively happier than others', though it could have been better.

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

My mother has erratic mood swings which sometimes cause misunderstandings between us. Regardless, I still love her and I aspire to give her the best life I can afford.

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

36 Questions: SET 1

I came across an article about accelerating intimacy between strangers by simply asking 36 Questions. This works on the premise of mutual vulnerability as each person lets off his/her guard and reveals his/her beliefs, experiences, and even dreams to the other.

I've never used these with someone and I don't have plans to in the near future, but just for the sake of it, I'm taking a shot at answering these personal questions:

Set 1:

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

I've always been fascinated by Malala Yousafzai. I admire her for her courage to stand up for what she believes in, whatever the odds may be. She is a real inspiration and I would like to know where her passion comes from at such a young age.

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

If being famous means having a celebrity status or to that extent, then I don't like to be famous because I don't want to be subject to people's scrutiny all the time. It would feel like I couldn't be stupid or be silly because people would criticize me for sure. I can be quite sensitive when it comes to negative feedback so I think I'd feel really bad reading comments from bashers about me and my work.

The kind of fame that I like is just within a small community, wherein I would be known for the good that I've done and would always be remembered even when I'm gone.

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

Not really. I just make sure that I have a definite purpose for making the call.

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

A perfect day is being with the people I love and we're just carefree and enjoying each other's company regardless of where we are or what we're doing.

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

I always bring my phone and play music in the bathroom so I can sing and dance inside! To someone else? Never. But I would want to.

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

I would prefer the body of a 30-year-old because I still want to do a lot of things and I would need the youthful energy for it.

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

I think I will die from a severe illness, specifically cancer. If I get diagnosed, I wouldn't bother getting treated anymore because it would only be a waste of money trying to prolong my life when my chances of survival is bleak. Other people could have better use for that money I would have spent for treatment.

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

Not applicable

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

I feel grateful for being relatively healthy, having a normal life, and enjoying some comforts. What I have now is still far from what I aspire but I hope I'd get there soon.

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

My parents raised me well by instilling the right values, but it would have been much better if they explored my potential in arts or sports when I was younger.

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

I have really fun memories of my childhood. I grew up in a small, tight-knit community where everyone was part of one big family. All the other kids were my playmates and we would go out and play almost every day. We would play Chinese garter, compete in a 'beauty contest', dance in the rain, eat the nectar of santan flowers, climb trees, or pretend like we were adults in a game of 'bahay-bahayan'. Since I started school, my parents have always had great expectations on me when it comes to excelling academically. We would get some good spanking if we ever turned up a poorly scored exam. My dad would make us write the entire multiplication table on the mirror and if we made a mistake, we'd get a taste of the belt. The reward and punishment system worked well for me though because it made me realize that all my actions have consequences, whether good or bad, and of course, I only want good outcomes that's why until now, I'm trying to live my life accordingly.

Growing up, I didn't have a lot of luxuries compared to my other colleagues. My family's only breadwinner then was my father and there were times when he didn't have a project so we had to be satisfied with the little that we have. With this, I have learned to become more resilient and more patient.

Fortunately, I got scholarships for my secondary and tertiary education, so I was able to study in reputable schools despite our lack of resources. After graduating, I was given an opportunity to work for an insurance company as a management trainee. Now, I've already been in the business for 8 years and still learning along the way. I hope to see myself progress in this field, but if there is a chance for me to work in an international aid organisation, I wouldn't think twice about taking it because it is something I really want to do.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

I want the ability to read minds because with this, I won't have to experience misunderstandings with anyone.

Monday, December 31, 2012

2012: Mishaps and Lessons

2012, I must say, was one of the most difficult years I have experienced so far. There were a lot of mishaps along the way, which inevitably gave me some life lessons that I should keep.

Here are some of the things that I have learned, usually, the hard way:

1) Don't be afraid to say what you want. People do not have accurate mind-reading capabilities to always know what you want from them. You don't have to demand though. Just ask nicely and let the person decide whether they will fulfill your request, compromise, or turn it down.

Don't be afraid to say what you feel. They may say that actions speak louder than words but verbally expressing how you feel towards someone or a situation minimizes misunderstanding and presumptions.

2) Level your expectations whether it is with someone or an outcome that you are waiting for. When you don't expect much, more often than not, a good outcome seems to bring greater joy than something that is already expected. Also, when the odds are not in your favor, the disappointment is somehow not as big.

3) Always be grateful. Being appreciated is one of man's basic emotional needs. May it be through a simple "Thank you" or giving a heartfelt note, telling someone that you appreciate what he has done for you will definitely make him feel good about himself. Knowing that he has made someone happy can inspire him to continue doing good.

4) Live in the moment. It is really difficult to enjoy what you have in the present if you are haunted by ghosts of the past and too worried about the future. This tendency to think about things outside the present moment results to lack of focus and unnecessary anxiety.

5) Haste results to waste. Things which will require you to invest a great deal of time or money will have to be thought about carefully and it always pays to seek help from family and friends. The online scamming incident has really taught me well.

Many things in life won't usually go in our favor but what's important is we learn to cope with these challenges and be able to apply these life lessons in our future endeavors.

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Why did I stop blogging for a long while?

It occurred to me to check my blog again, and I have just noticed that it had been more than a year since my last post in 2011 and my more recent one in July of this year. Definitely, a lot has happened in between. Perhaps the highlight of the previous year was that the self-proclaimed Ms Independent had a beautiful distraction. 

Yes, it was a beautiful but somewhat short distraction called love. For the first time in my life (and very unexpectedly), I have succumbed to such discombobulating and bittersweet endeavor. Until now, I can still vividly reminisce the first time I saw such lovely creature and immediately felt at ease with his presence. I was indeed attracted at first glance but I didn't have an expectation that it will lead to something more. Perhaps on his part, he also did not see me like that too since it took a long while and a few unintentional nudges from me before we had our first date. 

I have to admit that I am still stuck. Crying every now and then because of pleasant memories and realization that we will never be together again. It has been almost 9 months since I last saw him. I don't know when I can completely move on and just smile or laugh about it. I hope soon.

Sunday, July 22, 2012

It's been so long!

Thanks to the blog, "Solo Date Nights", my interest in blogging has been rekindled as I was forced to log in to my Blogger account to make a comment. Since my last post in February 2011, a lot have definitely transpired--places I've been, people I met, and love I lost. I'd definitely have a cathartic release in this blog soon. (Hope I won't be lazy!)

Sunday, February 6, 2011

I Super Love Weekends!

Who does not love weekends? After 5 days of toiling in the office - finishing projects, meeting co-workers, and replying to endless e-mails - diligent employees like us truly deserve a break! So my super friend, Nescy and I, always see to it that we make our weekends superb! We are adventurous and fun-loving gals so we try a lot of super exciting stuff together - partying at the club, chilling out in a cozy bar, trekking and spelunking, running in a marathon, practicing yoga, going to the beach, and the list goes on! In fact, this coming weekend, we will hike to Mt Pulag! So excited! I'm looking forward to more adventures with my super gal pal! 

Partying the night away

Summer trip in Anvaya Cove

Spelunking in Sagada

Running 5k at the National Geographic Fun Run

Ziplining in Bukidnon

Celebrating birthdays at a friend's house

Singing our hearts out in a videoke place

Hope you'll choose us! :)

Thursday, May 20, 2010

could this be the end of my drinking career?

Last February, my dermatologist has prescribed me Isotretinoin for my skin problem. I took it for 6 months, once a day. Since this drug is very potent, I was advised not to get pregnant since this is teratogenic (as if this is applicable!), reduce my consumption of fatty foods, and worst of all, not to drink alcohol. Afraid of the possible consequences, I complied (not quite faithfully though) with the doctor's orders (I still drank alcohol once a month but with my doctor's permission).

After 6 excruciating months, I got so excited to finally go back to my old drinking habits that I didn't think twice in chipping in for a bottle of Cuervo in Bureau that cost us P2,400! Alas, after downing a shot, I immediately got buzzed. My friends and I took our second shot a couple of minutes later, and alas, my world already started to spin, my knees got weak that I can't stand, and I just felt so dehydrated (water in Bureau is not free!). I was so disappointed with how I fared during that drinking session, and all I could blame is that frickin' drug I took for 6 months. Because of not drinking alcohol  regularly for quite a long time, my alcohol tolerance has hit rock bottom that I could not even think straight after one shot.  

Thinking that my alcohol tolerance might have already improved, I tried drinking beer, vodka, and tequila last Friday. However, to my disappointment, I spitted out the tequila and in a matter of seconds, also puked all over my lap. Gee, I bet my friends were totally grossed out seeing and smelling my vomit. It was my first time to throw up in public! Totally embarrassing!

Hence, after giving some thought, I have decided to love my liver more and minimize my alcohol intake per occasion. I have gotten myself into trouble and embarrassment for a lot of times because of my unmindful drinking.