Monday, December 31, 2012

2012: Mishaps and Lessons

2012, I must say, was one of the most difficult years I have experienced so far. There were a lot of mishaps along the way, which inevitably gave me some life lessons that I should keep.

Here are some of the things that I have learned, usually, the hard way:

1) Don't be afraid to say what you want. People do not have accurate mind-reading capabilities to always know what you want from them. You don't have to demand though. Just ask nicely and let the person decide whether they will fulfill your request, compromise, or turn it down.

Don't be afraid to say what you feel. They may say that actions speak louder than words but verbally expressing how you feel towards someone or a situation minimizes misunderstanding and presumptions.

2) Level your expectations whether it is with someone or an outcome that you are waiting for. When you don't expect much, more often than not, a good outcome seems to bring greater joy than something that is already expected. Also, when the odds are not in your favor, the disappointment is somehow not as big.

3) Always be grateful. Being appreciated is one of man's basic emotional needs. May it be through a simple "Thank you" or giving a heartfelt note, telling someone that you appreciate what he has done for you will definitely make him feel good about himself. Knowing that he has made someone happy can inspire him to continue doing good.

4) Live in the moment. It is really difficult to enjoy what you have in the present if you are haunted by ghosts of the past and too worried about the future. This tendency to think about things outside the present moment results to lack of focus and unnecessary anxiety.

5) Haste results to waste. Things which will require you to invest a great deal of time or money will have to be thought about carefully and it always pays to seek help from family and friends. The online scamming incident has really taught me well.

Many things in life won't usually go in our favor but what's important is we learn to cope with these challenges and be able to apply these life lessons in our future endeavors.

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Why did I stop blogging for a long while?

It occurred to me to check my blog again, and I have just noticed that it had been more than a year since my last post in 2011 and my more recent one in July of this year. Definitely, a lot has happened in between. Perhaps the highlight of the previous year was that the self-proclaimed Ms Independent had a beautiful distraction. 

Yes, it was a beautiful but somewhat short distraction called love. For the first time in my life (and very unexpectedly), I have succumbed to such discombobulating and bittersweet endeavor. Until now, I can still vividly reminisce the first time I saw such lovely creature and immediately felt at ease with his presence. I was indeed attracted at first glance but I didn't have an expectation that it will lead to something more. Perhaps on his part, he also did not see me like that too since it took a long while and a few unintentional nudges from me before we had our first date. 

I have to admit that I am still stuck. Crying every now and then because of pleasant memories and realization that we will never be together again. It has been almost 9 months since I last saw him. I don't know when I can completely move on and just smile or laugh about it. I hope soon.